I didn't think we were to speak of the day...

It came to my attention lately that LT had never heard the story of the butterfly day. SO tonight we spoke of it. I gave every detail I remembered. He was very receptive to it. He told me that his mom had told him that I was dead...wow! At the end of the conversation, I told him "I love you". His response was "I love you....more" Oh my gosh, I was crying! we've been through so much. All wounds have healed...even more so now. What an amazing experience for us both.

Oh Summer...I don't know if I'm ready for you!

This year I have been completely spoiled. My first year of all of the kids in school. After 11 years of having babies at home, I finally had a few hours to myself every day. My year of wonderful is getting ready to be stopped with an abrupt halt...summer vacation. I'm excited, yet I'm thinking...when am I going to sleep? When am I going to have time to clean house? What am I going to do to keep these crazy kids busy and happy? I will survive. It's not like I haven't done it before. Most kids count the days until summer gets out...I think I will be counting the days until school starts. Don't get me wrong...I love my kids more than life itself. They are pure entertainment and love like no one I've ever known. They love each other and they love life. Sheer happiness wakes me up in the morning...giggles, screams of goofy, and jumping on beds. I just need to teach Maggie the workings of the remote...lol

Gripe for the day (I don't gripe often, so I'm allowed now and then):
Kids! If you don't want them, then don't have them! I heard a friend this week griping like I've never heard about her kids. I seriously wanted to ask her what she actually liked about her kids. All I hear from her is they did this, and they did that, and they are driving me insane. Really, I know each mother has their moment of insanity, but all the time? God gave you those gifts...enjoy them, because like my other friend, she just lost her baby. A baby that she desperately wanted. OKay...I'm done.

Insomnia

OH the world of insomnia. Tired during the day and wide awake at night. Oh how I wish I was a teenager again and carefree. I slept good then, but I guess I had more time to stop and smell the roses.
After a long and busy day of dealing with others and my kids, I sit awake. I think of what to do with "this" situation or "that" one? What's for dinner tomorrow? Did I pack Maggie's snack? Are there enough socks in Wylie's drawer? Did I lock the door? Are the bills paid? Wonder how my friend is? Something made me mad or sad. Something got me thinking that I could have handled something differently. Someone said something that got me thinking. I was encouraged by something. I remembered something special from the kid's earlier days. Praying all is well.

So many thoughts!!! Where did they come from? When will they stop? I finally close my eyes and put my head down and either sit thinking or lay down and crash. Waking up in the morning is not fun. It's stolen my happy morning person, and it's left me with a foggy grumpy person. Drop the kids off and either go back to bed for a few hours or face the day. No time for those thoughts now. I have stuff to do and places to go. Phone rings and emails come in. Kids have so many questions. Fix dinner. Give baths. Read books. And then I'm back to the insomnia.
When did this pattern start? I'm still really not sure, but sometimes I think of it as "my time". My special time to reflect over life. Sometimes, it's my time to watch a movie or eat dinner(sometimes my first meal of the day). Sometimes it's just my time to plan.
I think having kids for so many years in a row made my sleep schedule completely got knocked off. Up in the middle of the night over and over, and then trying to sleep when they slept. Looking forward to nap time! People pulling and tugging on me physically and emotionally. It's like when you spin a spinner. It gets going, then spins really fast, and then it starts to slow and bobble until it stops. I guess that's what I am...a spinner. lol
It's going to be OK until summer. WHen summer comes, I have no time to stop and bobble around. That's why I like the pool so much. I can either sit quietly and soak up the sun, or I can jump in and be awakened by some freezing water.
I don't know if insomnia is my friend or foe. I love insomnia, because I do stop to think of all the little things. I have time to talk with my friends or just enjoy a moment of silence. I hate insomnia, because it leaves me tired and worn out. For right now, we have to be friends. We live together every day. So why not make a blog about it, and then go to bed. My thoughts are complete.

Unanswered Prayers

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers...

I was listening to the radio the other day. I had it turned to country music, which is not common for me. I love listening to Christian radio, and my family just doesn't appreciate country music like I do. Garth Brooks came on the radio, and I heard a song I'd always loved, but I hadn't really appreciated it until now. Yes, I'm posting the words to the song below.

Garth Brooks
Unanswered Prayers

Just the other night a hometown football game
My wife nd I ran into my old high school flame
And as I introduced them the past came back to me
And I couldn't help but think of the way things used to be

She was the one that I'd wanted for all times
And each night I'd spend prayin' that God would make her mine
And if he'd only grant me this wish I wished back then
I'd never ask for anything again

Most of us think we know everything in high school. We find that first love, and we think that they will be forever. Yes, I was one of those people. I remember how happy, yet how angry I was then. I was happy, because I'd found someone I thought was the perfect fit for me. I was angry, because I felt loved for the first time, and he was the one that I took all my hurt on, because I felt safe enough to do so. I learned that love was not alway unconditional. We went our separate ways in college. Things just weren't right.

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

She wasn't quite the angel that I remembered in my dreams
And I could tell that time had changed me
In her eyes too it seemed
We tried to talk about the old days
There wasn't much we could recall
I guess the Lord knows what he's doin' after all

I didn't know then that God had different plans for me. I did not know that the perfect man was to come several years later. After finding that I had to love God before I could love any man, I met Terry. In college, I had someone challenge me to make a list of things that I wanted in a husband. I listed 32 things. Things I had lacked in life, things I wanted in life, things that I thought would make me happy, and things that I couldn't live with in life.
Shortly after we were married, I stumbled upon that list. I read each one...check, check, check. There was only 1 thing on that list that I had to settle for...lol...he couldn't dance, but he will try.
The term "other half" is so thrown around, but Terry is my true other half. Together we make quite a team. Complete opposites, yet we both have the same goals in life. He loves me unconditionally...after meeting so many challenges in our marriage, I can now say that. Unconditional love. My wedding ring has 2 simple rings on each side of the engagement ring. 1 ring for Terry(closest to my heart), and one ring for me(furthest away from my heart and closest to him. The diamond engagement ring stands for God. The strongest, most beautiful thing. It(god) holds us together. We chose to have those 2 rings saughtered together, and for me it was so that those rings would never come apart from the middle ring.
We've had prayers answered and prayers that were not answered, but actually the prayers never went unanswered...we just got a bigger and better plan. The things we asked for and didn't receive were things that weren't meant for us or were not the right timing in our lives.
So yes, I thank God for unanswered prayers, because I look back today and see the happiness that was meant for me...a different and better plan.

And as she walked away and I looked at my wife
And then and there I thanked the good Lord
For the gifts in my life

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers

Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he may not answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

Some of God's greatest gifts are all too often unanswered...
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

Paycheck=0=Lots of blessings

So at the beginning of this month, I was freaked out. Not because we weren't getting a paycheck, but I was freaked about how my husband would handle it. Would he stroke out or have a heart attack? Would he be a grumpy grinch? Well the answer to that is no. He has been praying, reading his Bible, and going to Bible Study faithfully.
How does one get through November and Thanksgiving without a paycheck? Well, first you pray and have faith. 2. You put your pride aside. 3. You have great friends and family that surprise you in so many ways that you can't help but feel loved and have faith!
We are now at the end of the month, and I have 200 dollars in my account. How does that happen? <3 Thanks you for the many people that anonymously gave to our family. What to do now? 1. Continue on that praying, reading, and going to Bible Study. 2. Leave the pride in the past. 3. Love the friends you have in many ways. 4. Pay it forward.

Thanksgiving

Three years ago made Thanksgiving one of my most memorable Thanksgivings. Kids had been gone to Dallas since July of that year, because I'd been in the hospital...read Butterfly days for explanation. We thought that it was going to be Christmas or January before they would be home. On November 14 of that year, we started to move from a hotel into our house. We had a few little things and a bed. That was it. We were in the process of finding toys and beds for the kids. The day before Thanksgiving my husband called me. I remember I was in the garage trying to get some things unloaded and organized. I answered the phone, and he said, "well, I just talked to your dad. We are going to Thanksgiving to see the kids, and we are bringing them home...tomorrow!" I was shocked, surprised, elated, crying, and so happy!
We left the next day to head to Dallas. The kids had no idea what was to await them. When we got there, we told them to start packing. They were so shocked. They didn't even want to wait for dinner, they were ready to GO! We could never really explain why our short weekend trips to Dallas why we couldn't take them home, and now they were actually coming home!
On our trip home, we smiled, cried, and held hands as we drove to our new home. A home that has held many precious memories for us. It's small, not in a very good neighborhood, and has mismatched furniture, but it is OUR home. A place of happiness and growth. I a place of healing and warmth.
3 years...it seems just like yesterday.

Trusting in His promises

Well, we found out today that Terry's paycheck for the month is $400. LOL. Well...we are trusting in God's promises. Lord, please put food on our table, gas in our cars, and remind us that you are here. Please give Terry peace...ok I need it as well. When we are tempted to question, we will fall on you. I'm seeking you. I love you. I want to sit at your feet, drink from the cup in your hand, lay back against you and breathe, and hear your heartbeat. Let us have joy through all circumstances.

Kari Jobe:

The more i seek you,
the more i find you.

The more i find you,
the more I love you

I wanna sit at your feet
drink from the cup in your hand.
Lay back against you and breath,
hear your heart beat

This love is so deep,
it's more than I can stand.
I melt in your peace, it's overwhelming

The more i seek you,
the more i find you.

The more i find you,
the more I love you

I wanna sit at your feet
drink from the cup in your hand.
Lay back against you and breath,
hear your heart beat

This love is so deep,
it's more than I can stand.
I melt in your peace, it's overwhelming

I wanna sit at your feet
drink from the cup in your hand.
Lay back against you and breath,
hear your heart beat

This love is so deep,
it's more than I can stand.
I melt in your peace, it's overwhelming

I wanna sit at your feet
drink from the cup in your hand.
Lay back against you and breath,
hear your heart beat

This love is so deep,
it's more than I can stand.
I melt in your peace...


(Thanks to Myasia for these lyrics)
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